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No matter how many times you listen to your favorite song after a breakup, the pain from a heartbreak can feel unbearable to go through. Having a chapter close in your life, like a romantic relationship, is not something anyone would ever want to experience—whether they decided to pull the plug or not. But, for however long you and this person have been together, you both decided, at one time or another, to be a part of each others’ lives—and that’s something you should remember and cherish.
Experiencing this type of loss can be very detrimental to your health and self-confidence. However, there are ways to overcome this mental roadblock by using a few tricks.
1. Allow yourself to grieve the relationship.
You would think it would be easier to heal after each breakup you experience, but every situation is different. Whatever you do, don’t believe that you failed because the relationship didn’t work out. Every person that enters into your life is supposed to be there for a reason—whether to teach you a lesson or help you grow in some way. Relationships—especially romantic ones—may challenge your thoughts and help you discover things about yourself. And by allowing yourself to grieve, you’re giving yourself permission to be vulnerable and present in the moment.
2. Create a space for healing and understanding.
Some people like to jump into another relationship right after a breakup to prevent the loss they’ve just experienced from their previous relationship. While that’s not a bad thing to do, it might be best to use this time to pamper yourself and engage in self-care. Take long, bubbly baths for no reason; go to a movie that you’ve been dying to see by yourself; spruce up your apartment to create a stress-free oasis. Just because the relationship you were in didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean the one you’re currently in with yourself has to suffer and end as well.
3. Surround yourself with close friends and family.
Having a healthy support system will help you heal and feel confident. Friends and family can listen to you vent and provide a shoulder to lean on when you feel sad. Make sure to schedule a few friend dates to get out of the house and do something fun. While there’s no definite end date to when you’ll feel better, your loved ones’ support can help build your self-confidence by reminding you why you deserve happiness and making you laugh.
4. Dress the way you want to feel inside.
Fake it ‘til you make it, right? Even though you may want to hide in a closet and binge-watch your favorite Netflix show, you may feel better if you pretend to feel happy. An easy way to help change your mindset is by wearing things that may make you feel confident. Take the time to pick out an outfit that will bring out your inner girl boss, try a new hairstyle—heck, even brush your teeth. A little bit of grooming and self-care can help you feel more confident and may even heal your heartbreak. It’s all about baby steps.
5. Conquer the things you once put aside.
There may be one or two things you never had the chance to begin or accomplish because of your previous relationship. While this partnership might’ve not worked out, you can finally go after the things you always wanted to do. Focusing on new projects can allow you to feel accomplished and brave and may even spark a new venture for you to explore. Don’t let a past relationship stop you from achieving your goals because your confidence has been affected. This is the perfect time to dust off your shoulders and build up your self-worth by going after the things that once made you feel alive.
6. Be mindful of your thoughts.
It can be easy to engage in negative self-talk when you go through a breakup. You may second-guess your self-worth, which can affect your self-confidence. Instead of focusing on the negative and beating yourself up over the past, gain your confidence back by challenging your thoughts. Every day, write a few things down about why you love yourself. It might feel silly at first, but the more you practice this, the quicker you may fall back in love with yourself again.
7. Be kind to yourself.
There’s no reason why you need to punish yourself when you go through a breakup, especially if your significant other broke up with you. Just because the relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or you did something wrong —not all relationships are supposed to last, some are there to teach you life lessons. Try to remember that even though it’s completely normal to work on yourself to grow and learn, no one should make you feel inferior. Keep your chin high, don’t overthink the things you could’ve done, and please, don’t obsess over the mistakes you made. It’s never too late to learn and try again.
- Bee 🐝
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