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How to Find Your Bedroom Love Language for Better Sex



I recently learned of something called ''Erotic Blueprints'' from a sexologist, and I thought ''I NEED to know more about this'' and from there, the research commenced.


What the Hell are Erotic Blueprints?

According to a Sexologist, they are a ''a powerful map to help you discover your unique form of arousal,” and in learning your own, you are given the “guidebook to all that is erotically possible.'' Just like the normal love languages, not knowing these can make you seem sexually incompatible. Knowing your ''Erotic Blueprint'' and your lovers can greatly enhance your sexual experience and connection.


What are the 5 Erotic Blueprints?

1. Sensual

The sensual blueprint are all about the well, senses. They may be big on music, massages, oils and even cooking them a meal outside of the bedroom.

2. Sexual

This one is more of what we think about what we think of sex in our culture. They enjoy porn, naked bodies, the standard. These are typically seen as the ''easiest'' to please.

3. Energetic

This type tends to feel more with less. They can often find themselves craving the feeling of longing, eye-gazing and a hovering touch. It’s important to keep an open line of communication with Energetic blueprints because they can get overwhelmed easily by stimulation or underwhelmed by a sudden lack of presence from their partner.

4. Kinky

We've all heard this one! These types are mostly turned on by creativity in the bedroom and exploration. The ''taboo'' may turn them on. Sometimes these types can feel a sense of shame to their desires.

5. Shapeshifter

This type can bounce between different types based on different partners or experience different blueprints at once. They are known to be an empathic lover, because they can adjust to feel of all of the prints. This type may be fond of layering many different kinds of play, using different toys and trying new trends to evolve their connection and knowledge.


How Do You Get The Most Out Of The Blueprints?

Start by exploring your OWN blueprint through solo actions. This can make you feel more empowered to ask your partner what you want from them. But don’t keep speaking your language of sexual satisfaction and ignore the differences in your partner’s blueprint and expect to have a great sex life. Once you become an expert on your own, start a conversation with your partner about theirs.


Let us know your Blueprint!

-Mimi ❤️




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