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**Mimi would have a soft toned voice with a audible Japanese Accent.
**Bee would speak in a light New York accent.
Elle's voice has a valley girl tone and preppiness.**
Mimi: Hi guys! It's Mimi here, welcome back to our advice column. We're sadly missing one again, Lina this time. But, this one should be pretty quick and straightforward!
Bee: Hii!
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QUESTION ONE
Mimi: Okay, let's get started, we have — two questions today! ''First question is — How can I effectively communicate to individuals who have developed strong feelings for me (simping) that I am not interested in a romantic relationship and would like them to respect my boundaries?''
Mimi: First of all, that's creepy.
Bee: I know right?! They're crossing the line.
Elle: Wait, I'm confused how they're crossing a line?
Mimi: Right...we're doing that thing again where we lack context.
Elle: It just says they developed strong feelings for them.
Bee: I feel like, if you're developing feelings for someone, you should talk to a person about it whenever is possible and see what the other person wants. But again, we don't have much context on the situation. Situations can differ.
Mimi: That's not what the question asked though.
Ellen: Bee?
Mimi: Bee is drunk.
Bee: I'm not. That person should just talk to them.
Mimi: Anyways, I'll give you guys my take based off of what we have. If you don't like something someone is doing, tell them to cut it out, honestly. If they don't respect that or take it further or get weird then you're gonna have to just deal with that through more extreme measures like even a restraining order if you need. But, we don't know the extent.
Elle: Yeah, I agree with Mimi. Basically, just let them know, hey, I don't want to be more than friends, and I'm not interested in you anything more than that. OR- Like, just tell them to completely screw off and say you don't want them at all. And, if they don't get the memo, then maybe a restraining order is in place. Or, you could just ghost them and block them.
Mimi: Pretty straight forward there, if someone is making you uncomfortable, you really just have to stand up for yourself. I know that's a hard thing sometimes, people get weird, and obsessive. But, it's the most effective. Any closing thoughts on that?
Elle: None from me.
Bee: Nope.
QUESTION TWO
Mimi: Alright, bear with me here. This one is a bit long and maybe hard to understand. ''My boyfriend had a really tumultuous relationship with his ex-wife and a really bad falling out that's caused him to swear off getting married again and he's made this abundantly clear, but i still want to get married and it's not like i want to get married right now, either, right, but it'd be nice in the future, we've been together for four months now, but what do i do? He's come back and said it was a joke, but i don't know if that was genuine or if that was him covering his ass. i just feel so lost.'' Okay! So, boyfriend never wants to be married again due to....shitty ex wife, right? Am I understanding?
Elle: Yeah, I got that too.
Bee: I believe that's what the person means, yes.
Mimi: Okay. Well, if he's communicating this now and you wanna get married, it's only four months in, now is the time to leave. You can't really change his mind in my opinion, especially based on his experience, who knoows what happened.
Bee: Mhm. Yeah, I agree with Mimi. You can't really change a person's mind so easily. Since you're just early in the relationship, I'd say it's now or not.
Mimi: As far as the joking part, if marriage is on the table — be an adult and discuss it. Tell him to cut the bullshit, ask if he was joking. Simple as that, you both sound grown as hell, there's no room for /jokes/ about this, you guys need HONESTY. Sit him down and ask what's the deal and what you can expect in the future.
Bee: Mhm. Totally agree.
Elle: I mean- Let me bud in here. Four months? I mean... Four months? It's still quite a fresh relationship... In my opinion. If he's joking about marriage four months in, it's really not that big of a deal at least to me. Obviously, I'd want to know if he sees himself in the future getting married, having a family and all of that. But, I think it's a bit much to be sitting him down and demanding to cut the games.
Mimi: It's still an adult relationship, like — I want kids in the future. Why would I waste my time and energy into someone who didn't want the same goals as me? It's a huge deal to me, he needs to be straight up. Four months can turn to a year quick.
Elle: Not to mention we have no idea how fresh his divorce is. I mean, joking about not ever wanting to be married again or marriage isn't a huge deal to me.
Mimi: She can't tell if he's joking or trying to save face though is the whole thing.
Elle: It's really a personal thing, I think. I mean, it's all about trusting your partner right?
Bee: It is yeah. But again, she's not like asking him to marry her right now.
Elle: He admitted it was a joke? What is she going to do, sit him down and he just rephrases himself?
Bee: She just wants to see how her future will be?
Mimi: I mean clearly something makes her think he's trying to save face. Clearly we don't have the details and it isn't adding up somewhere. Honestly? I love you guys but please. Send us details.
((Bee lets out a chuckle))
Elle: Yeah, maybe try to lure into the conversation, honestly... I wouldn't flat out be like we /need/ to sit down. But, again yeah. It depends on the context.
Mimi: I don't care if it's a page long, send us details. Because clearly something went wrong in translation for her to feel the need to even submit this in. I don't know what it is — because — LACK OF DETAILS.
Elle: Yeah, true... Well. You have many opinions here! Hopefully, you relate to one.
Mimi: I also don't know if it's been pushed or not, it could just be something at the back of her head. So, I can't even 100% say talk to him. If it's never been thoroughly brought up, sure. Ask, won't hurt. If you've continued to ask about it, leave it alone, his answer won't change.
Elle: Right, yeah. I agree. You know him best, but like if it's bothering yourself so badly that you HAVE to bring it up again, then go ahead. I always knew from day one my husband wanted marriage in the future and that did comfort me, but I never really pressured the conversation on him, either.
Mimi: So really, you should just do whichever of these best fit your context, since you know it best. I hope that you get the outcome that you want from that. Any closing statements regarding this question girls?
Bee: Update us!!
Elle: Yeah, hope we could help! And, honestly if you need more help, please just update us, yeah give us more context. We love hearing back.
Mimi: Updates are great! Send that in after you do...whatever you choose to do! That's all of our questions for today! We'll have Elle close this out for us!
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Mimi: Bye guys! Talk to you next time!
Bee: Byee!
Elle: Mwah.
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